Occupational Mirrors: Points in Life

As I reflect on myself and my current situation at work, where I deal with people in their early to middle 20’s, I have come to see the differences of maturity. Most of them are inexperienced, when I say that, I mean by work experiences. I have been working since I was 20 years old. This is the age I officially became an employee. I had worked before reaching 20 of course, although not full time, it greatly helped me financially. I had my share of putting up with people just to have some cash. When I first started working, I accepted a scholarship to proceed to graduate school. It was a very generous offer, one I could not refuse. So I balanced working full-time while studying on a nine-unit course per semester in graduate school for the first time.

Although I am not yet in my thirties, good thing I still have a few more years to get there. I have learned many things in the professional world. It is true that when you start working early, everything you’ve learned will get shoved at your head. You will learn a few tricks along the years (yes, good and bad tricks!).  You will learn to improvise and assess from situations you have encountered. You will have your ups and downs and eventually cope up.  To get me with day to day, I typically reflect on good books, blogs and inspirational people and I have come across Paulo Coelho’s blog. He presented 25 important points in life on his September 2014 post. So with this, as I reopen my blog for a comeback since my long year hiatus, I would like to share each points together with my own personal insights. Reflecting not just on work but also in life itself.  I will take these points one by one and at random since Coelho also never mentioned an order for it.

So the first point I am going to share is quite related to my opening is this;

Every experience, either good or bad, comes with a lesson.
“There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there.” –Paulo Coelho, paulocoelhoblog; September 3, 2014

This point may sound a cliché to some but it is very true to its words. Difficult situations happen to people — whether you are considered a good person or not. It may be an ironic situation to some,  like finding out you have lung cancer when you do not drink or even lit a cigarette. Another circumstance would be the classic ‘having stood up’ on your wedding day.

These moments allow you to reassess your life. It definitely hurts, make you angry and you probably think you do not deserve it or if you are that pessimistic you might think that God is punishing you. There are reasons for everything that happens to you – to us. You might not see it immediately; not until you fully accept the situation you are in.

Take for example the job I had about 8 years ago.  I never expected to like it or even enjoy it. It was just a convenient job for me. I have become to love it and also the people that comes with it. I had to let it go because they had to let me go too due to technicalities at human resources. I feel so bad, why it happened to me. I had to leave the work immediately and the co-workers I love to work with. Every day not working felt like withdrawals from substance abuse. I felt so angry and not treated fairly; why they had to let me go and that I had to let go. But then it made me realize that losing that job was sort of a blessing. I can solely focus on graduate school – allowed me the chance to excel. I got to know more about my classmates whom are very awesome by the way and are now my very good friends. Turns out it was a good break.  After that I found a job that fairly suited a balance of working full time while doing graduate school and got a very supported boss too.

The key is only when you have understood and accepted it, then comes the learning from it. Of course you have to take in the process. Honor your emotions. Take each step slowly, one at a time and always remember that time is your ally.

This is just 1 of 25, next points will be on the next entry!

🙂

 

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¡Hola! The Comeback with Havana

I’m back!

After more than a year of hiatus in the blogging world, here I am back at it! I promise to be more active. I have been planning for a good update on my site and will share a lot of things soon. For now, my come back post is Camila Cabello’s Havana!

A good friend of mine just came from South America and shared us a lot of things about the continent for he’s traveled most in the Latin countries (I wonder why it’s formerly called Latin America when in fact they mostly speak Spanish). So my friends and I are planning to save to go there since our dear friend promised us food and accommodation. Yippee! It would take a lot to save there though but I’m determined!

Here’s a little inspiration for this South American craze.

I really love Camila, she’s like another Ariana Grande to me — in a different way of course!

The beat is so good, the lyrics rhymes so well and ohh the video! I love Camila more with her dancing!

Check out Havana!! 🙂

 

Tight Spot: Siete-Uno Siete-Uno Seiz

Again, the same feeling of frustration, disappointment, inadequacy and incompetence overwhelmed me today. I am beat and I feel so small. No one has a right to incriminate a person. No person should ever do that to anyone. I strongly believe insensitivity is a peccadillo towards another. I was three feet to people who were talking about me. Why can’t you not tell it to my face? Cowardice is inappropriate in circumstances, this one especially! Are you being modest? Do you think I would break? Well fuck you for making me feel so inferior in my own country! Belittling me in my own motherland is such an insult I cannot take. I can speak for all my fellow Filipinos by saying that!
You have been the most egotistical person I have ever met. Guess what? I know a lot of things, better than the knowledge you think you have, I am just practicing humility. If you say you do not mean it, I would not consider it. You hurt my feelings, what I feel is what I feel and I am entitled to that. That is the subjectivity of emotions my friend! I will always remember this day — the day you have desecrated my being from confronting to a fellow colleague (the colleague was very nice to me though). This is the first time I feel like I don’t belong. I shouldn’t feel this way! I should never! In my own country?! Although not in my birthplace but still – my own country for Christ sake! I don’t know why I’m here but somehow I try to find purpose in all things. I am trying to see the bright side of this. Maybe He has a better purpose. I certainly hope so. I feel so down and bad in so many ways I cannot imagine. I’m far from family, as I have said I am not in my birthplace, the place where I really live, the place I called home but I’m still in Philippines for God’s sake! I hope to find an ample amount of good friends here but I got were mere competitions. People who are certainly insecure and inadequate with their lives. I found a few good ones though, people that are worth investing of relationships for.  But they are few and I don’t get to see them always as I would want to build that good connection with them. May they be blest with all the goodness in life. Well as for the others, may they be blest too.

I hope I can find a light to everything here. With all the things I have been through recently, I easily get down and disappointed with myself. I usually look at the internal locus of control in every situation but sometimes it is not always you. No matter how better you treat others, no matter how large the amount of humility you show some individuals will surely be a factor. I also hope I can go home early. Maybe this emotion I am feeling is intensified with home sickness. God I miss home. My family, mother’s cooking, my brother’s jokes even my father’s snores. I wish my next few weeks will be better. Please God make it be better.

Please.. please..

7 SITES THAT PROVE YA PUBLISHERS KNOW WHERE IT’S AT

I’m reblogging this post because I am a die hard YA fan! Thanks for this Emily! I’m checking everything you suggested!

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If you’re at all active in the YA book community, you’ve probably interacted with a publisher or two. Publishers are some of the coolest and most fun bookish people you’ll ever meet, and for that reason, the sites they create to market their YA books are just as awesome as they are. SO, here are 7 sites created and run by YA publishers that will fill your life with more happiness than before.

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1. Epic Reads (HarperCollins)

Possibly the most well-known of the YA publishers, Epic Reads and HarperCollins were one of the first publishers (that I know of) to form a relationship with their readers in a digital platform. You may recognize them from their ringleader Margot Wood, the greatness that was Tea Time, the *book shimmy*, or their Book Nerd Problems videos on YouTube.

So, why should I join?  Their blog is fabulous! There are tons of posts…

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To Almost

I thought we had something. We could have been I thought we could have. Simple smiles for a greeting, slow whispers in the corner, and small laughs on the side. Few talks on the table, hands brushing while keeping up with time.

However, the spark did not became fire. I wish we could have been more. But know this Almost, what I felt was real. You might not feel the same way now but I am happy we came to the point that we shared something in common. That in the brief moment in our life together, you and I felt the same thing. I am certain that, in that slight nick of a time, we had it.

I wish you all the best, have a great life ahead. I knew you would.

Because almost will always be ALMOST.

 

The Competitive Pre-Valentines Date

It is almost Valentine’s day and as a single woman, I have never celebrated the so called heart’s day alone. This year a few of my friends and I had a very different kind of Vday date. Since we are very competitive by nature, (haha, we do trivia nights too!) my friends and I went to an entertainment attraction called Exit Now.

Exit Now is like a maze or what they call an exit game wherein you find your way to an exit inside a room filled with mysteries, obstacles and puzzles. They say you don’t have to be smart to finish the game only your common sense. However, being smart, witty and teamwork will get you to the finish line on time.

There are five themes to choose from, and as our first time we chose “The Orphan”, for a spoiler, its scary! 🙂 Unfortunately, my team got different interpretations of the clues, we didn’t get to the exit on time. It was so frustrating that we failed but it was really fun. After we were done we were getting on the facts on why we failed it, which was the funniest part. Our frustration lasted until the next day! That’s how disappointing it is to loose for the competitive people! haha 🙂

So, if you wanna experience this kind of new entertainment visit their site at www.exitnow45.com or their facebook page EXIT NOW.

Exit Now was ugh.. I cannot describe it! 😲😵😱😟

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Happy New Year!

Today officially marks 2016! Happy January first! I had a very generous 2015, hope you did. So do you have any resolutions? I for one is not a fan of it. It’s fun doing everything at your own pace. If there is one thing I want to change its my eating habits. Although I usually eat healthy foods, there are times I cannot control my sweets. I have very imbalanced hormones, a fact that can evidently be seen during my monthly visits so there are times I crave and compulsively eat sweets.

This 2016, I will continue..

  1. to read books! A lot! I have surpassed my 2015 reading challenge on Goodreads which is 20, I have read 24 this year. For 2016, I planned on reading 25 books and hopefully read more. 🙂
  2. to spend Sundays with my family. Sunday is always family day. ❤
  3. to achieving my friends’ squad goals which we started last year and so far we’ve been very consistent on it. #crossingfingers
  4. to watch my favorite movies and tv series! Hell ya! this is my specialty.
  5. to never fail to say “sorry” when needed and “thank you” when grateful.

That’s my top five, I was thinking on just four but how can you forget #5?

What are your New year’s consistent list?

Happy New Year!