The Lockdown Series pt.2

Another Great Book!

So this book is a new release from Rebecca Serle, “In Five Years”.

Blurb:

Where do you see yourself in five years?

When Type-A Manhattan lawyer Dannie Cohan is asked this question at the most important interview of her career, she has a meticulously crafted answer at the ready. Later, after nailing her interview and accepting her boyfriend’s marriage proposal, Dannie goes to sleep knowing she is right on track to achieve her five-year plan.

But when she wakes up, she’s suddenly in a different apartment, with a different ring on her finger, and beside a very different man. The television news is on in the background, and she can just make out the scrolling date. It’s the same night—December 15—but 2025, five years in the future.

After a very intense, shocking hour, Dannie wakes again, at the brink of midnight, back in 2020. She can’t shake what has happened. It certainly felt much more than merely a dream, but she isn’t the kind of person who believes in visions. That nonsense is only charming coming from free-spirited types, like her lifelong best friend, Bella. Determined to ignore the odd experience, she files it away in the back of her mind.

That is, until four-and-a-half years later, when by chance Dannie meets the very same man from her long-ago vision.

Brimming with joy and heartbreak, In Five Years is an unforgettable love story that reminds us of the power of loyalty, friendship, and the unpredictable nature of destiny.

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I can’t help but see myself in Dannie. I have been always the careful one, always thinking that if I do this this will lead to this. Causality has always been my way of living and was also the way I was brought up. It has always been effective, still is. Though it has it’s disadvantages but I’m not gonna talk about that.

The book gravitated on relationships, especially friendship between Dannie and Bella. They have this strong and profound relationship probably because they met when they were little. They have opposite personalities but one compliments the other.

When I started reading I began to predict some disappointments for Dannie but it never came out that way.  I was amazed by their kind of friendship, I wonder if that kind really exists. I thought for a second Dannie might have actual feelings for Bella, as in romantically but there isn’t. Both their relationships with men where to good to be true but their friendship has always been tight. Being together for so long has made it much stronger, being there for each other when life happens when they were young up until becoming adults.

I have many highlights of beautiful and touching lines from the book but this simplest one stuck,

‘Love doesn’t require a future.’

Made me realize of the many cliches about descriptions about love. It is what it is as long as it’s felt — it exists.

I can make a lot of statements about this but I would greatly suggest you read the book. I am getting Serle’s other books soon, I’m kind of loving her writing. I just wish she would give a more elaborate ending for Dannie and Aaron, a second book perhaps? I hope so…

In Five Years : A Novel by Rebecca Serle is out now.

Gave it 4 on Goodreads!

Occupational Mirrors: Points in Life

As I reflect on myself and my current situation at work, where I deal with people in their early to middle 20’s, I have come to see the differences of maturity. Most of them are inexperienced, when I say that, I mean by work experiences. I have been working since I was 20 years old. This is the age I officially became an employee. I had worked before reaching 20 of course, although not full time, it greatly helped me financially. I had my share of putting up with people just to have some cash. When I first started working, I accepted a scholarship to proceed to graduate school. It was a very generous offer, one I could not refuse. So I balanced working full-time while studying on a nine-unit course per semester in graduate school for the first time.

Although I am not yet in my thirties, good thing I still have a few more years to get there. I have learned many things in the professional world. It is true that when you start working early, everything you’ve learned will get shoved at your head. You will learn a few tricks along the years (yes, good and bad tricks!).  You will learn to improvise and assess from situations you have encountered. You will have your ups and downs and eventually cope up.  To get me with day to day, I typically reflect on good books, blogs and inspirational people and I have come across Paulo Coelho’s blog. He presented 25 important points in life on his September 2014 post. So with this, as I reopen my blog for a comeback since my long year hiatus, I would like to share each points together with my own personal insights. Reflecting not just on work but also in life itself.  I will take these points one by one and at random since Coelho also never mentioned an order for it.

So the first point I am going to share is quite related to my opening is this;

Every experience, either good or bad, comes with a lesson.
“There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there.” –Paulo Coelho, paulocoelhoblog; September 3, 2014

This point may sound a cliché to some but it is very true to its words. Difficult situations happen to people — whether you are considered a good person or not. It may be an ironic situation to some,  like finding out you have lung cancer when you do not drink or even lit a cigarette. Another circumstance would be the classic ‘having stood up’ on your wedding day.

These moments allow you to reassess your life. It definitely hurts, make you angry and you probably think you do not deserve it or if you are that pessimistic you might think that God is punishing you. There are reasons for everything that happens to you – to us. You might not see it immediately; not until you fully accept the situation you are in.

Take for example the job I had about 8 years ago.  I never expected to like it or even enjoy it. It was just a convenient job for me. I have become to love it and also the people that comes with it. I had to let it go because they had to let me go too due to technicalities at human resources. I feel so bad, why it happened to me. I had to leave the work immediately and the co-workers I love to work with. Every day not working felt like withdrawals from substance abuse. I felt so angry and not treated fairly; why they had to let me go and that I had to let go. But then it made me realize that losing that job was sort of a blessing. I can solely focus on graduate school – allowed me the chance to excel. I got to know more about my classmates whom are very awesome by the way and are now my very good friends. Turns out it was a good break.  After that I found a job that fairly suited a balance of working full time while doing graduate school and got a very supportive boss too.

The key is only when you have understood and accepted it, then comes the learning from it. Of course you have to take in the process. Honor your emotions. Take each step slowly, one at a time and always remember that time is your ally.

This is just 1 of 25, next points will be on the next entry!

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¡Hola! The Comeback with Havana

I’m back!

After more than a year of hiatus in the blogging world, here I am back at it! I promise to be more active. I have been planning for a good update on my site and will share a lot of things soon. For now, my come back post is Camila Cabello’s Havana!

A good friend of mine just came from South America and shared us a lot of things about the continent for he’s traveled most in the Latin countries (I wonder why it’s formerly called Latin America when in fact they mostly speak Spanish). So my friends and I are planning to save to go there since our dear friend promised us food and accommodation. Yippee! It would take a lot to save there though but I’m determined!

Here’s a little inspiration for this South American craze.

I really love Camila, she’s like another Ariana Grande to me — in a different way of course!

The beat is so good, the lyrics rhymes so well and ohh the video! I love Camila more with her dancing!

Check out Havana!! 🙂

 

The Competitive Pre-Valentines Date

It is almost Valentine’s day and as a single woman, I have never celebrated the so called heart’s day alone. This year a few of my friends and I had a very different kind of Vday date. Since we are very competitive by nature, (haha, we do trivia nights too!) my friends and I went to an entertainment attraction called Exit Now.

Exit Now is like a maze or what they call an exit game wherein you find your way to an exit inside a room filled with mysteries, obstacles and puzzles. They say you don’t have to be smart to finish the game only your common sense. However, being smart, witty and teamwork will get you to the finish line on time.

There are five themes to choose from, and as our first time we chose “The Orphan”, for a spoiler, its scary! 🙂 Unfortunately, my team got different interpretations of the clues, we didn’t get to the exit on time. It was so frustrating that we failed but it was really fun. After we were done we were getting on the facts on why we failed it, which was the funniest part. Our frustration lasted until the next day! That’s how disappointing it is to loose for the competitive people! haha 🙂

So, if you wanna experience this kind of new entertainment visit their site at www.exitnow45.com or their facebook page EXIT NOW.

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Compensatory November

Dear November,

You’ve been kicking me off like I’ve been punished from being a bad kid in school. I have been very nice as a matter of fact. Anyway, since the last week of October I have been very busy with work. Is that the priming stage November? Getting me ready for your whole 30 days?

All those back to back trainings, overtimes and all made me an insomniac. Even my subconscious gives me dreams about work! Imagine that?! Can I sleep in peace? Not the all-through-out peace though. But you know what November? Despite all those about-to-give-my-resignation-letter phase, you have given me the best compensatory Saturdays with my most favorite people to hang-out with. Covering up distress with eustress is not ideal but thank you for the most amazing Saturday nights turned into Sunday mornings. That crazy night crashing in a barrio feast was awesome. As an adult, it was my first time going into a local disco. Most locals call it ‘diskoral’. I have been to that when I was little according to my  mom but I can no longer remember. 🙂

Anyway, thank you November for great Saturday hang-outs. I would miss half of my life if it didn’t happen.

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Looking forward to a great December!

Going Domestic in the Island of Bohol

I never thought I’d go domestic again, but it felt so good to have that girls scout camping vibe.

It really was girl-scouting again when my girlfriends and I went to our friend’s (Peter) place in Bohol. It’s an island called Getafe and we were specifically located in Nasingin, another secluded island, as I would describe it, in Getafe, Bohol (Nasingin, Getafe, Bohol).

What do you expect in an island?

Well, if you’re a total city girl, you can’t survive a day without easy transportation, gadgets, appliances and most of all electricity. You can’t find those in Nasingin. Fortunately, Peter’s house is a notch higher to all other houses in the island, not that I discriminate though. They got a very nice flat screen television which I don’t have, they’re the only house with generator in the island and a big room of tank for water to fill in. It feels provincial (or can I say island-ish) because electricity/ generator only goes on from 6pm until 9pm. So my girls and I got caught up with the situation, thank God I’ve got the most adaptive friends ever (Dili mi arte noh!). We’re all used to the city life but we can be domesticated too. 🙂 So proud of my girls that we’ve managed two days not complaining on anything, if there was though, it was the heat. Cheers to girls united!

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we managed to make cake without an oven!

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This sandbar is located in Pandao island in Bohol

We would like to thank Peter for being so hospitable and generous all throughout our stay. His father  was so nice to us as well.

Viva amistad! 😉 🙂 😉

Bon Voyage Donnabelle!

Our dear friend Donnabelle is leaving for the U.K. She will be working as a nurse at Royal Surrey County Hospital. Everything was on short notice, even her decision papers for her flight. So as an acting leader among our group of friends I asked my friends if we could throw her a short notice but intimate ‘Bon Voyage’! PhotoGrid_1430136988247 This is actually my first time to organize an intimate farewell gathering. We ate dinner, then went to a karaoke place and gave Donna a present. We gave her a small scrapbook where we wrote our good luck messages — some encouraging and some not! 🙂 We also gave her a small gift. 11163639_10206218147643462_1913837447_o We gave her a souvenir tumbler from Starbucks – its the Cebu tumbler. She can use this in UK and it will always remind her where her heart is. And also because Cebu is paradise! We are happy for her! It is a good way for her career as a nurse and we will always be there for her.

To Donnabelle,

As you move into a new venture,

May luck and success be always with you!

Although we will have a great deal of time difference now, but hey, we can still meet halfway where your morning will be our twilight  and your noon will be our night. 🙂 We are just a Facebook away! BON VOYAGE!  SEE YOU SOON! 🙂 🙂 <3<3<3

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Bon Voyage Donnabelle – April 25, 2015

*sorry for bad editing *image credits to Irvin and thanks to Rovelyn, Lloyd, Raymond, Peter, Iants, Ramonito and Michael!

The Kiddie Party (Bday Blog)

Hey! I’m back!

I was just busy with things.

Preparing for my thesis proposal hearing was so stressful but luckily my panel let me pass and push through with conducting my thesis then hopefully for defense. Immediately after the proposal work preoccupied me so much since my officemate resigned and I got all her workloads. It was a good kind of busyness though because it got me engrossed at work that I cannot even think it’s already time to clock out! I’m so fully absorbed by the tasks I’m doing that I have no time to revise my thesis proposal. Even though I passed, I still need to revise it. I liked the feeling that I am so busy because even if tires you in a lot of ways, after a day’s work it can get you that sense of fulfillment like eight hours isn’t enough. I know its cliché but it’s really kicking in me.

So okay, so much for the updates! It’s JUNE! It’s my birth month and about to end sadly. Although it belonged to a rainy season, of course I would always love JUNE! I was born in it, molded by it! (haha.. Bane mode) My brother and my two cousins were born in June too. But honestly, we never wanted to celebrate it in one party. 🙂

Okay, so since it’s my 2-5! Oh my gosh, I’m already 25! Hello quarter life crisis, guess you’re really coming in! I’ve been ignoring you lately! Haha..

The 24th fell on a Tuesday so I opt to celebrate it on a Sunday (June 29th) since I don’t have work on Sunday and its family day. I really thought of what nice ways to celebrate my day, something that would make it very interesting even if it’s just a very small celebration. Then this idea came to have a sort of “kids party theme” was really great. My brother thinks it’s hilarious but he likes it. I asked him to help conceptualize and he was really helpful with it. Here’s it!

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my brother helped me conceptualized this, he’s ‘the hulk’ 🙂

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bday crown

giveaways and cup cake tier

giveaways and cup cake tier

the gang, my lovies!

the gang, my lovies!

 

How I hope it would be like this forever but reality bites telling me to move on! I love my family and friends even if some weren’t there at the celebration, you are still with me by heart. <3<3<3

Cheers to another orbit of my life! 🙂